Your Valentine’s Day Gift: Self Acceptance

The Unseen Influence

When people take my Channeling Healing Energy workshops, it’s always a beautiful thing to see the surprise on their faces when they realize for the first time that they can feel someone walk into their energy field – and that they can feel it happening more than 10 feet away from their body.

With little difficulty, most people can learn to tune into the subtle shifts in their field caused by the influence of others. The more sensitive in the group even report a feeling of pressure against them and more rapid breathing as they feel the person approach – even though their eyes are closed during the exercise.

We are energy beings living in a sea of energy, and as such, we exert a profound influence upon one another. For example, women who share a home as roommates eventually find that their menses cycles synchronize.

It’s said that over time, life partners start to look like each other. We are energy that is capable of great change, depending on the state of our consciousness. Even our DNA is affected by thought (read Dr. Bruce Lipton’s book, “The Biology of Belief” for more on the subject).

In her book, “Why People Don’t Heal, and How They Can”, Caroline Myss talks about energy leaking from our fields to others when we think about them. She counsels her readers to be careful of spending too much time worrying about other people, because it depletes our energy and provides them with energy they should be finding for themselves. Those readers who have a companion who is a constant complainer, who leaves them feeling worn out after a conversation, know what I mean.

Aware of the influence our field has on others, we can choose consciously what thoughts and actions to take to protect our field from leakage and offer loving energy to others.

Taking the following steps will ensure your vitality and generate a calm environment around you:

1. Whenever you encounter something stressful, let the energy of it drop down your body and out through the energy centers in the soles of your feet. That way, the energy can be recycled by the Earth.

2. Draw universal energy into your body through your feet and the crown of your head, meeting at the heart, to ensure your vitality. Do this whenever you feel anxious, angry or fatigued.

3. If you encounter someone who is in a bad mood, having drawn that universal energy in, send it back out to that individual with love. If they’re having a bad day, they deserve your compassion. This action also protects you from energy loss, since engaging in negative emotion creates fatigue.

4. Be here NOW. When your thoughts wander into the past or become anxious about the future, your energy is not available to you in the present moment. Come back to where you are and just work with what’s in front of you.

5. Quit worrying about your loved ones. You have no control over their karma. Their path is their path. Instead, project a feeling of confidence in their strength, their ability to cope, and if it’s your children, their ability to use the tools you’ve given them to get through life. Even the youngest child does not benefit from worry. Having an anxious parent just makes them worry too, and lose confidence in themselves. Bless them and gradually let them go, with love. Their soul has chosen their path. Trust it.

6. Sometimes, people ask me how to protect themselves against psychic attack. There are really only two emotions operating in the world – love and fear. Someone who attacks you does so because they think you’re a threat. Love truly does conquer all. Bless them, send them love, and free yourself from the trap of giving back as good as you get. It only lowers your vibration to react to attack with fear or anger. Stay in a higher vibration so you can offer a lifeline to those who are in fear but looking for a way out.

We as a species are shifting paradigms, moving out of an age built on fear, needing to believe in the security of material goods. We are evolving into a species vibrating in love, becoming a community built on spirit, sharing, and mutual strength and well-being. How you choose to resonate your energy now will determine how easily you move into the new paradigm. Namaste.

Be a Channel for Compassion

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Recently, I’ve been reading Wayne Dyer’s book, The Shift, which is based on his movie of the same name. It talks about something many of us are going through at this time. We’re having the rug pulled out from under us, experiencing what Wayne calls “the fall” that is necessary before a shift in consciousness can occur. When we go through the loss of a relationship, a job, a home situation – anything or anyone to which we’ve clung for a sense of stability and in order to define ourselves – we drop down into a state that is almost formless in nature. We don’t know who we are anymore. It’s a time of darkness and a place of fear for many of us. No matter how we try, there’s nothing to which we can attach and say, “That’s me.”

Yet, this is the very state in which we must abide for a time so that we can “let go our ego” and let the Divine take over instead. Wayne calls it allowing yourself to be “lived by the Great Tao”. He reminds himself of that each morning by starting the day with a prayer of thanks for once again being allowed to serve. There is no striving for control over ourselves, others, or our resources in this state, but instead placing our trust in the Divine to operate through us and provide for our needs.

When we stop worrying about how we will survive, and we set aside our fears so that we can simply be of service, something magical happens, we become embued with compassion greater than our ego selves can muster. We become conduits for the Divine force. The right words and actions issue forth without our having to think of what to do. We become more effective, because we’ve learned to “let go and let God”. We can be there for others, because we’ve stopped thinking of how to get what we need or even how to help others; we’ve simply stepped back and let the Light flow through us. This is truly what it means to be a Lightworker.

Simultaneously, we discover that the petty needs that had once consumed us get addressed without a lot of effort or worry on our part. Things seem to fall into place. The Light supports us as it moves through us. There is plenty to go around. There is no need for “mine” and “yours”. The sharing of resources and energy comes naturally, and what we need comes naturally to us when we open ourselves to be channels of compassion in the world.

Introspective Spread Using the Psychic Tarot

Below is a spread I created, using John Holland’s Psychic Tarot deck. It’s useful for examining where you are at the present moment at the conscious and subconscious level and where that moment is taking you.

Photo by Bonita Summers

In this spread, we start with the central card, depicting the querent in the present moment. In this case, the individual is ready to move forward in their life, possibly leaving present relationships, jobs, or locations behind. There’s a restlessness to pursue new avenues and make dramatic changes in life.

The card to the upper left shows what enslaves the person to their present situation. In this case, material success – either having a secure position now or focusing too much on financial security – is holding the querent back from embracing new challenges and opportunities, despite the desire to explore new avenues.

The card to the upper right shows what frees the person to embrace the desires of the present moment. In this case, a relationship offers the encouragement to move forward. This may be in the form of a significant other, a friend, or a business relationship. Such encouragement may come in the form of direct encouragement or it may be indirect as in the case of a relationship that is troubling, which provides the impetus to create change.

The card to the lower left shows the shadow, that part of the person that has been hidden until now, but contains the power needed to embrace change. In this case, the querent has the ability to create prosperity but doesn’t fully realize that it’s in them to do so. There is likely fear around taking responsibility for doing so. Often, looking at our shadow involves facing our fears in order to liberate the power that lies within our hidden selves. It may also be a pattern for the querent to be reliant on others rather than face growing up and having to maintain themselves. This suggests an aspect of the Self that is frozen in childhood and needs to be acknowledged and embraced in order to assist its growth and evolution toward adulthood.

The card to the lower right shows the light, that aspect that will aid in the querent’s healing, that energy which offers gentle help and nurturing in the process. It balances out the shadow, which often involves the harsh, gritty work of personal growth. In this case, the card is suggesting that the introspection required to acknowledge the shadow needs to be conducted during a time of rest, that the querent cannot continue to keep busy in order to avoid taking responsibility for the work that needs to be done. The challenge for the querent is to be willing to take a rest, even if it triggers the fear of lack of security. This person may need to accept less work for a time in order to do the internal work necessary for change. In a western society that values tangible results, such a rest period is not always valued, thus posing a challenge for the querent.

The bottom card shows the outcome should the querent meet the challenges of the preceding cards. In this case, addressing the issues at hand will help this person to know their own strength and power, discovering that the resources they needed have been waiting within all along.

I welcome comments on this spread, and I look forward to hearing how this spread works for you.

How can we contribute? The Prince of Wands

The Aquatic Tarot. Author/Artist: ©Andreas Schröter 1995-2002

It’s January, and our thoughts turn to the year ahead. The Prince of Wands begs the question: how can we contribute to our world? To the people in our lives?

It brings us out of our winter shell, poking at the cocoon in which we’ve ensconced ourselves, asking us how we wish to come forth into the new year. Are we to focus on ourselves only and our needs, or is there something larger beckoning?

Our world is changing in ways that challenge and even frighten us, and it can be difficult to find the strength to step outside our comfort zone and be there for others.

We can take respite in the fact that when we extend ourselves to others in productive and positive ways, we create an opening for energy to flow back to us, lending us the support we need. In these shifting times, let’s not get so caught up in our daily struggles that we forget community, that we forget each other.

Lean on the universal energy that sustains you, and be a channel for that energy out into the world. Being that channel for love and light is the best New Year’s resolution I can imagine.