Creating Connection During the Holidays

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It’s early morning. The dogs are curled around my legs as I lie in bed, and James, our manx cat, has not yet woken from his favourite perch on my office chair to tell me that it’s his breakfast time. I want to savour the quietude, but my brain is already abuzz with its list of tasks for the day. There always seems to be something to accomplish – and the holidays create a blender effect of escalating duties that fill the imagination, crowding out the tranquility of the present moment.

It’s so easy at this time of year to get caught up in holiday preparation and lose our connection, not only with others, but with ourselves. It’s often difficult to shut down that anxious voice in our heads with its list that seems to be longer than the one Santa reserves for good children. Rather than try to shut it down, I suggest you take that extra few minutes in the morning to feel that tension to which the mind gives voice. Experience the fire in the body that stress creates. It’s interesting to see how that anxiety shifts and slows when we give it attention rather than fight it off.

Take time, this season, to stop a moment in your bustling about and acknowledge your feelings. Don’t worry about labeling them or figuring out where they came from. Just stop to feel – the same way we’re often told to give pause for breath in yoga class. Just feel for a moment and allow your body and its emotions to come to rest. You’ll continue into your day with a different perspective by being patient with yourself and your feelings each morning and whenever you can during the day.

The Bull in the China Shop – The Prince of Swords

The Aquatic Tarot. Author/Artist: ©Andreas Schröter 1995-2002

It’s not surprising that this card would show itself so close to Christmas. This headstrong, single-minded prince doesn’t have a problem with getting the job done even if other people get upset along the way.

As we finish up preparation for our holiday festivities, it’s easy to get impatient with long lines at the store, recipes that don’t turn out the way we planned, and last-minute changes to our holiday get-togethers.

This prince can also lapse into confusion when things don’t go his way. He’s so singleminded that when plans go awry, he lacks the flexibility to go with the change in flow.

It’s important during this hectic time of year to reprioritize and remind ourselves what the season is really about, and don’t sweat the small stuff.